Tag Archives: Finding Courage

NEVER GIVE UP

Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com

LISTEN TO YOUR HEART

There are things in our lives that are so important to us that we can’t let them go. Even when we think we’ve given up and forgotten about them, they linger in our subconscious and wait for an opportunity. Our hearts won’t let us truly give up. Instead, our hearts will put something that’s important to us on the back shelf but it won’t ever go away. If you have anything like that, you need to pursue it.

Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com

I have many things like that. Writing is one of them. I love to write. It’s something that’s been with me for as long as I can remember and has hung on through the ups and downs of life. Writing is an outlet for me, it’s a passion and it’s something I know I’m meant to do. I’ve wasted years trying to figure out what I can do with it but it’s always been there.

Whenever I look forward in my life, in a dreamy state, there are three things that are always the same. I’m a writer. I’m healthy and fit. I’m a non-smoker. (I’m also always rich!) The first three, are things that I can control and they’re things that won’t leave me. Sometimes I get discouraged because I haven’t accomplished them all yet. But I know and believe that eventually they’ll be my reality.

How do I know that I’ll achieve these three things?

  1. They’re important to me.
    • No matter how many times I think I’ve given up, they won’t leave me.
  2. I want change.
    • I continuously look for things that can help me achieve these goals.
  3. I believe they’ll happen.
    • Every time I look into my future, these three things are always there.

If we listen to our subconscious minds, we’ll find the things that are important to us. If there’s something that won’t leave you, then you know that it’s something that’s meant to be. We’ll recognize the areas that we want improvement in. We’ll seek out ways to help us make changes to reach our goals – even if it takes us years.

Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com

The only key you need to remember is to never give up. Keep trying until you find what works for you. This applies to every area in your life; mental wellness, finances, career, relationships, health and any other area you can think of.

Dreams will follow you wherever you go. No matter your circumstances, you have the power to make them come true. If you can’t believe in yourself yet, then believe in the possibility of something more; something better. Hang onto the hope and desire that your dreams lend you. Be open to opportunities to learn and grow so that you can become the best version of yourself. The version where your dreams have finally met reality.

Photo by Nita on Pexels.com

Want to share? What’s one thing that has stuck with you that you won’t give up on?

OVERCOMING FEAR

Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com

BE SCARED AND DO IT ANYWAY

I’m afraid.

I’m afraid of so many things. I’m afraid of big things like dying or someone I love dying. I’m also afraid of smaller things.  Like putting myself out there.  I’m afraid to be seen.  I’m frightened of failing.  Oddly enough, I’m also scared of succeeding.  I fear that people won’t like me, of being misunderstood, and of people judging me. One of my biggest fears is that I’m not good enough.

My entire life I’ve let the fears win. Then one day, while my insides felt like melting wax, my heart raced and my eyes watered, I decided to fight back.

Even as I sat there thinking about it, I wanted to cry. I wanted to scream out from the terror that seemed to be consuming me. I wanted to stay safe and hide behind the fear like I’d done my entire life. Yet deep down, a spark flickered in the darkness and it wanted to grow. I knew that I couldn’t hang onto both. I had two choices.  I could let the fear win and snuff out the light for good.  Or I could feel the fear and push past it so that the light could grow and I could become who I was always meant to be.

I chose the light.

I often wondered why things seemed so easy for other people and so hard for me. I thought that those other people must have something I didn’t. Did they have magic that gave them unlimited confidence and high self-esteem?  They had no fear; how could they? Why was it so easy for other people to put themselves out there and be recognized?  Meanwhile, I hid in the shadows, terrified someone would see me?

At first, the answers seemed obvious. I lacked confidence and self-esteem.  I was afraid of not being good enough and of other people’s judgment. Then one day, I asked myself a question that helped changed the way I viewed the situation. “What if those other people are as afraid as I’ve been but they did it anyway?”

You see, as long as I believed that those other people had something I didn’t, it was easy to hide behind my fears. As soon as I asked the question, it leveled the playing field and there was hope that ignited the spark in my soul. The only difference between me and those other people was that they were afraid and did it anyway.

Photo by rawpixel.com on Pexels.com

That’s it. One small yet significant detail had kept me from pursuing my dreams and becoming the person I wanted to be. Rather than feeling afraid and doing it anyway, I let fear consume me and then stop me in every area of my life. I suffered from depression and anxiety. I belittled myself daily. I felt weak and insecure. I believed that there was something wrong with me and that I truly wasn’t good enough.

Then I asked myself more questions. What if I am good enough? What if I do succeed? What if I quit thinking and start doing? What if I try?

Again, my eyes welled up with tears.  My stomach turned to knots; my breathing became more rapid while at the same time I felt like I couldn’t breathe at all.  My heart raced uncontrollably. Panic had set in.

I stopped, closed my eyes, took in some deep breaths and asked myself what in the hell am I so afraid of?

Everything, was the answer from my subconscious mind.

What is the point of being afraid of everything?

If I don’t try, I can’t fail. I won’t know if the answers to the questions are true. Not knowing is better. Trying could lead to the discovery that my fears are true. If I’m not good enough then I would find out the truth. At least now, I can pretend that there’s a chance.

You’re right, I replied. But the point that my subconscious brain was missing was that the opposite is also true. If I don’t try, I can’t succeed either. I’ve learned as much from my failures as my successes in my life.  I would rather try and fail than to spend the rest of my life wondering “what if”.

So, here I am. . . trying. I want to lead by example.  By taking a chance and following my dreams, I hope to lend some courage for someone else to follow their dreams too. Maybe that person is you.

We decide how we’re going to live our lives. We control whether we let fear consume us or if we follow our light. Many people have fear. Lots of people who try things suck at them at first. The ones we admire, the ones we think have something that we don’t are the ones who were afraid and did it anyway. They’re the ones who let themselves suck until they didn’t anymore. Now it’s our turn to take a chance. It’s our turn to be afraid and do it anyway. It’s our turn to shine.

Join me on this journey of self-discovery, of conquering fears and living our best lives. Join me and let’s see where the light takes us.

Photo by James Wheeler on Pexels.com

Want to share? What are you afraid of but are going to do anyway?